when one door closes.....

When one door closes, another always opens, even if it’s a window or a dog flap…..


Oh the joy the joys of sometimes giving up hope and thinking that there is no end to troubled times or no light at the end of all those dark tunnels we often find ourselves travelling in….

We all have had times when we feel so stifled and so pushed that we have lost hope for a second, a minute, an hour maybe a few days… We have had days when we get caught up in the he said she said, the issues of someone else and forget that sometimes its all just bullshit…. Not to say that we should not care about the feelings of the ones we love, but sometimes they forget our feelings and the ones they love…..

Its sometimes in our nature to give up easily or lose hope and sight easily. We spend so much time analysing the problems, the minute details and not really focuse on the solution. We spend hours debating our dilemna with our close ones that we try to understand the things we don’t and really in truth its not always for us to understand.

When we fail at somethings, we think that we are failures in ourselves and if someone calls us a failure we take it to heart and allow their energy to assist us in our own demise. We have forgotten that the reason we fall is to learn to how to get back up. We are so absorbed in criticism of our selves and of others, always trying to get one up on the other that we have in fact lost our sense of self, respect and value.

We see failure as definition of character, but what we forget is failure is on route to success and those that fail and keep getting back up and go at it from a different angle are not failures, in fact they have more strength of character than you could possibly imagine.

We judge too quick, criticise too quick and think we are better than the man next door too quick. We do not know each others stories but we listen to others and assume we know everything. We listen and accept gossip quicker that we listen to the truth. But to be honest, we have begun to live in a society where no one can be truthful, be proud of the truth or accept the truth.

We put so much pressure on our selves to always be the best, the first, the one…we are quick to jump over heads, take lovers from lovers, kill each other, back stab, cheat, and do what ever we feel we need to ensure that no one gets the better of us and front that we are doing fine….

Well, heres my truth, I have had an interesting life, and my life is still indeed very interesting, I have met the best the worst and the plain ugly….but each one has bought something into my life. I have made some bad calls, bad judgments, some stupid stupid moves but on the up side I have made some great decisions and on a daily basis, I am proud to say that my decisions are pretty great! But occassionally I mess up! But hey that is the beauty of life and living.

I have grown to realise that to give up hope is to give up all together. Whilst I am not deluded or a dreamer, I am realistic in my appraoch to life and spiritual within my being to know that everything happens for a reason. We make decisions based on our circumstances and what we foresee our future to be or sometimes whilst just looking at the present. There have been times when I have and still do make some rash haste decisions but you know what, its okay. It is okay to fuck up and it is okay to make an ass of yourself sometimes as I have learnt that from these moments you learn to better yourself, you learn to handle situations better and make better concise informed decisions. How do you know you don’t like something or something is not for you if you don’t try it once…..

To repeat the same mistake and put your self through the same pain over and over again is foolish, but sometimes you have to do it, until you can take no more and until YOU realise that the situation is not for you. No one can tell you. They can advice you, but no one can tell you what time it is. Only you will know when that time comes.

What I have also learnt, is that people who spend their time bitter and holding on to every little detail of the past are those that cannot see the future or hold on to the past for so long that they become bitter and resentful. They are suffering within and in turn want everyone around them to suffer. It takes time to weed this out but it is present in some people. Some people are such good manipulators that they spend their entire lives plotting and planning how to disrupt someone else, because they are truly unhappy within themselves. They have ghosts that haunt them, decisions that cloud them and regrets that control them. They don’t know how to proceed.

Their feelings are shown through abuse of mind, body and spirit. They cannot exorcise their own demons and so try to control all those around them.

I have learnt also, that to allow such people to enter your life, in hopes of maybe helping them through their issues, is not worth it. They will only take you down with them and make you feel as if you are to blame for everything that goes wrong.

Situations happen, shit happens and sometimes we all fuck up, but hey don’t let know one tell you that you are less of a human being or let some one destroy your spirit.

Always remember the good and the great things in your life, the things you have achieved and the plans that you have for your future. Remember that life is too short to hold on to the past or to someone elses issues. Remember your inner beauty and soul and remind yourself always of your own self worth.

Even if you have to make a painful decision, remember nothing lasts forever and there is always an end. Just keep the faith and your morale.

Don’t ever give up, cause when one door closes, another will open, even if it’s a small window or a dog flap, just look hard enough and you will find…….