i say......

Okay, so I am not up here as often as I should be, or as often as I said I would be, but you know how it is, life is what happens whilst you are making plans, and I have alot on my plate lately....so I am not a one hit wonder....

Any old how, I had to come up here for a quick second, as the other day I witnessed the most bizarre stupidest thing ever and it got me thinking about the current society we live in.

At the moment, I am not driving, which has its perks at times, as when you are in your own vehicle,you are in your comfort zone and you tend to miss out on the general public and their random behaviour. You tend to kind of lose touch with reality somewhat whilst you are enjoying the solitude and comfort of your vehicle. I am now a proud Public Transport user and hey I have no issues about it,as some of the best people I know use it and we love it, even when the system does piss us off!

Ok, so the other day, on my way home from work, I am on the bus, and the bus pulls up at a stop to pick up its passengers and two young testorone high "boys" jump on and walk straight past the driver, no ticket, no payment nor an oyster card.....

They go upstairs, and the next thing, the engine of the bus gets turned off by the driver. I am running on a tight time schedule here and every minute counts, so I am a little ticked off by these irresponsible inconsiderate beings.

Couple of seconds later, the boys come down the stairs. The first boy exits, laughing in an embarassed kind of way, second boy however decides that he needs to save face so he shouts to the bus driver...."wasteman driver" and exits.....

I was baffled to say the least! Firstly by the cheek, secondly by the stupidity and thirdly, the bus driver was of east european origin and probably would not be the least bit bothered or concerned by the comment as it would have meant NOTHING to him!!!!

I had to laugh. Here was another example of the usage of words, phrases and or signs without fully understanding its meaning!Or even who it should be used on!

Has our youth of today become so misguided and miseducated that they dont realise how stupid their words sound when their actions speak volumes of their actual intellectual capabilities, extent and comprehension!

The term WASTEMAN/WASTEGIRL derived from the URBAN scene to denote the lifestyle that one lived in ie never paying for anything, never handling their business, no job, no prospects, no ambition, basically being just a waste of space, and freeloading at every given opportunity. A term coined to denote the actions of those that were just too lazy to do anything for themselves and expected a free ride at all times and someone that was unable to handle their business and take care of their responsibilities!

I felt really sorry for this individual, as it was clear that his "ghetto" mentality was his downfall and that his stupidity did not allow his brain and mouth to engage. I felt embarassed for him.

Saying this, a few weeks ago, my son was attending the local soccer club over the summer, and he came home, complaining that three older girls had set upon him, calling him "Guerilla Boy" and pushing him around. Luckily for them, it was the day before the end of the summer club, so I could not set upon them in the same fashion. My son had been trying to recover his ball and one of the girls had come and slammed him against the wall causing my son to get pressed up against the fence and giving him a rather nasty bruise.

The next morning, which was the last day at the soccer club, I approached the organisers who informed that they were aware of the girls and their bad behaviour and it was decided that they were blacklisted from future participation. A little too late I wondered, but nevertheless, I let my son complete the day, and advised him, that no matter what, if they did something, he was not to react directly towards them and he should inform the Coach straightaway.

It got me thinking though, as to the state of these young girls minds. They were not much older than my own eldest child and they were behaving like thugs already.

When I approached them at the end of the day, the girl who was responsible for the injury to my son was absolutely unremorseful about what she had done and the only response I got from her was "oh well". Her brother tried to offer his point of view which was that may be my son had provoked her, but considering that they were older, I did not feel that this was an acceptable argument and i felt that they should know better. She did not care that I was older than her, nor did she even care that she had hurt a young child. She was an absolute beast of a child and if I could, I would have slapped her across her face with hopes that whatever was malfunctioning in that stupid brain would click back into gear and maybe, just maybe she would realise how horrible she was and was becoming.

What is happening to our young? How is it that grown folk are now more scared of young people than they are of their own age group. How can the government allow children to have so much power, and allow them such power when they do not even understand the true meaning of the word? We as parents have been told that we are no longer able to discipline or even apprehend our children when they are in the wrong. Instead, bad behaviour is rewarded, whilst the good intentions are frowned about and reprimanded.

I cant say all parents are responsible for the actions of their children however, we are their examples and tour guides on this adventure of life. Some parents, can be too "parent minded" and do their best but still create absolute morons or absolute treasures. Some parents can be absolute morons themselves and have treasures as children so it is difficult to ascertain some times where the root of the cause lies. However, I have witnessed that when the parent shows disregard towards others, the child follows suit. If the parent believes that the world owes them something, the child also thinks this way. Alot of people, dont understand the importance of balance. Experiencing good and bad in everything. Understanding the good and bad in everything and being able to appreciate the good and bad in everything. People these days only know of the extremes and do not know when it is appropriate to act and behave a certain way and when it is necessary to be logical and diplomatic and mostly when it is better to keep your mouth shut and have people think you are a fool, than to open it and prove to them you are!

I am absolutely disgusted at the state that our society is becoming. Men and women have no respect for each other, children have no respect for their elders and people have no idea where it is they are actually going.

The "bling" mentality has taken over and has filtered into the blood streams causing folk to lose their minds. They only see the short term and quick fixes. The club life supersedes the home life and everyone wants to be somebody when in fact they are nobodies. The exterior image dominates the inner being!Everyone wants to have the latest in everything, be the first to have it, spend/waste money on the unnecesary etc all in the name of keeping up with the Jones's and this is now trickling in to the minds of our younger generation.

Hard work and good behaviour no longer is "cool" and the more hedonistic your mental is the more pat on your backs you will get.

Exclusivity is no longer exclusive - its a free for all and young minds are becoming more and more dillusional by the day.....

So, I am asking here, can we be allowed to take back our power and teach and guide our children the right way, instead of being told that we are not allowed to discipline our chidlren, however we will have to take the blame if they ditch school, cause a nuisance or anything else that they decide is within their rights and power to do......

My home, is MY HOME. I pay the bills, the mortgage/rent, buy the food,cook the food, clean the toilet and bath and the home, provide the bed linen and clothes. I stay home and spend quality time with my child, and ensure that he has everything that he needs, I encourage him to talk to me openly and I listen to his feelings, however, it is my firm belief that if the child is hard of hearing, he/she must feel. A child should be a child and know that everything comes in time. No need to rush and become an adult. I grew up on a few beats, made me think before i opened my mouth, or do something stupid, and i know others my age who were bought up on the same medicine.....and we are doing fine.

So can we please stop allowing these children to get away with murder, and teach them the right way?