To Date or to Mate ~ that is the question.......

Once again, it has been awhile since I wrote my last blog, and I am guilt ridden about this however, as much as I am sure you have all heard this before, life is what has been happening to me whilst I have busy trying to make plans to write.

To be honest, I have been struggling for inspiration and besides the depressing stuff, there was nothing really that warranted a rant from me thus far, until last night.....

So, as you know, I have had a few chronic experiences with the opposite species and I do like to share, as I feel that we can all help each other out with sharing our experiences. I mean no insult or offence to any person or persons and no names are mentioned so please do not take offence if you read this and think I am talking about you.

After a well needed break, I decided to lift the lid on the selp imposed ban on dating. I have had a rather a lot on my plate of late and rather than add more pressure on myself I decided to concentrate solely on other aspects of my life. However, I have also not actively been doing much about it, as i wanted to be choosy about who I decided to go out on a date with.

Then oneday, unexpectedly I started conversing with someone who at first glance seemed like your average club promoter - posing for the camera with the ladies and loving the high life. However,as I am never easily impressed by such things, I decided to look past the obvious and keep an open mind. Never judge a book by its cover and all of that....

After some rather interesting conversations on the phone, we talked about actually meeting face to face. I was not really too sure whether i was infact in the mind frame to do such a thing as to be honest as I am not really bothered if I meet anyone or not - strangely enough the fact is I am actually quite happy in my own company and surrounded by my children and the friends I have, i am satisfied. what a bizarre concept......

So after he had even taken the time to speak with my friend to convince me to meet with him, i thought hey, what the hell, what did i have to lose? Maybe i should get a little practice in, and just keep the old mind ticking.....

so we arrange to meet.....

Bizzarely enough,after some smooth talking from this chap, he was 45 minutes late in meeting with me and for some reason, maybe it was the conversation i had struck up with the two music dudes in starbucks, i was actually okay with the lateness....normally i would have left within the first five minutes of the other person being late. see, i am not a person that makes it a habit to be late, and i expect the same from anyone intending to come and meet with me. my time is precious, so if you feel you have the liberty to waste my time, then you got to go.

So he strolls in, and walks straight past me even looking me in the face.....this is how observant and keen he is to meet with me.

When he eventually sauntered over to my seating, the two dudes that i had been conversating with, both looked at their watch and shook their head at him.....classic!

So we make our way to the chosen restaurant and we order our meals and whilst eating i noticed him scoff down some of the piggly wiggly down his throat, i asked him to kindly not kiss me on our parting and he looked at me as if i was nuts.....

look, i am my own person and i dont really care how many women are hunting your ass down, i am not the one....so please understand that i have standards and if it is problem then JOG ON..rude boy...

so whilst eating it was painstakingly obvious that this dude was very much on a different planet and he was so full of himself that i dont think this dude thought further than past his nose...

and then what really kicked it for me, was when he told me, in a tone that had me in hysterics......"i dont think this is going to work, i am just looking for fun..." ya think....lmao - it is not what he said, but it is the conviction he said it in, as though i was suddenely fly across the table, stradle him and say take me....YEAH RIGHT....oh and he had the audacity to even go so far as telling me I had wasted his time....i swear had my lamb not tasted so good, i was ready to fling it in his face and show him what time of the day it really was....

this little encounter made me sit and have a long think....what is going out there these days? obviously, dating had been abolished and replaced with mating on first sight....

i am not immune to being tempted into such things, however, i am proud to say- that i am very select in my choice and when i want someone i go for it however i rarely get excited and when i do, it has to be someone extremely rare and special.

but this encounter made me realise that even though i had spent a lot of evenings talking to this dude on the phone, and we had had some pretty deep conversations, he was still clueless about me and generalised me. I felt that it has been that had wasted my time thinking that perhaps gentleman still do exist.

anyway, i have since this DATE been wondering whether i should be looking to DATE or MATE or should i just hold fire and let the gods decide what my fate should be?