to spy or not to spy....

okay, so i am in a little predicament

i am someone that came from a legal background and it has been in my blood to research and investigate and analyse - and because i have been so determined, i have had a succesful rate of getting people acquitted.

So, when it comes to men, I am kinda the same. I investigate them and try and gather as much information on them before i decide whether i want to settle for them...but i have always wondered if i am wrong to be doing this....

my argument for this, is that once bitten twice shy - i have been bitten so many times that its become second nature to me, to scrutinise everything. My friend called me cynical last night, but to be honest, it could be farther from the truth...

i am very guarded, and dont believe that i should be obligated to settle for any man, and i want only the best. I want honesty, sincerity and a well established trust foundation to base a relationship on. I have found that not everyone is truly honest about who they are where they have been or what they have been upto.

In the last three years, i did homework on some fella's that were trying to run game on me, and i was adamant and found out what was going on behind the scenes and saved myself a lot of heartache - although at the time i was heart broken that these people felt the need to lie to me.

So here's my predicament, am i wrong for wanting to protect myself?